Many couples decide to get a confinement nanny. You can get a confinement nanny through providers like PEMconfinement.com or you may find them through friends or family who know that particular confinement nanny from Malaysia or even Indonesia. It really helps to have a confinement nanny around, as they have experience in traditional confinement practices. In addition to making sure the new mother is doing alright, the confinement nanny will be guiding the new mum on how to carry or bathe your little one, how to calm your baby down, how to breastfeed, etc. In addition, the confinement nanny will help with cooking your meals, making the red date teas, or even cook the confinement herbal soups. The confinement nanny is your in-house traditional confinement expert.
Unless you decide to do it on your own – not recommended! We have heard enough stories of husbands trying to be the sole care-giver. While this sounds chivalrous and self-sacrificing of the husband, it really may be more prudent to have an extra pair of hands in the house.
Sometimes, the mother or mother-in-law decides that they can do as good a job as a confinement nanny. While there are many older mothers who are already experienced in confinement practice, this alternative must really be deliberated very intentionally.
If you can afford to have a nanny in-house, there can be clearer demarcation of roles, because it is not uncommon for there to be strained relations because someone or other is offended or feels rejected despite their good intentions.
If there is a confinement nanny, usually there is a standard protocol that the nanny is familiar with. We are used to working with new mums who are supported by confinement nannies or their substitutes.